Self-disclosure is basically revealing something personal and not openly known to another person, whether they are facts, events in your past or your feelings about something or someone.
Many of us have problems with self-disclosure. Some of us find it hard to open up to others and allow them to get close enough to hurt us. This is usually caused by a bad experience in the past. However, it is self- disclosure that helps us forge ties with others. When you share your problems with another person, you may think of it as giving them the ability to hurt you. But it also gives them the ability to advice you, to support you, to help you make things right or even make you feel better!
Then again, there are the people who can't seem to keep their mouths shut and self-disclose WAY TOO MUCH! It may even come to a point where the people around you start to find you annoying as you won't stop going on and on about yourself and your problems! Furthermore, by over-sharing, you are giving people a lot they could use against you!
So how do you know when it is ok to self-disclose? Simple. It isn't so much about what you share but about who you share it with.
"What defines a best friend? What are the requirements to be a good best friend? How many hours a week does it entail? Stupid questions that have no answers. A best friend is not defined by how many times they talk on the phone, or how many hours they hang out together.
It is not defined by how many sleepovers they gossip at, or how many inside jokes they have. There are no requirements or laws that state that a good best friend must hang out with them every weekend, or tell each other every little detail. A best friend is a matter of opinion.
It is the person who has been there for you through everything, not just through the fun things, or the little things. It is the person that you call when you are at your absolute worst, it is the person who saves you when you didn’t even notice that you needed saving, mostly it is the person who accepts you for who you are, and the person that you are becoming."
It is not defined by how many sleepovers they gossip at, or how many inside jokes they have. There are no requirements or laws that state that a good best friend must hang out with them every weekend, or tell each other every little detail. A best friend is a matter of opinion.
It is the person who has been there for you through everything, not just through the fun things, or the little things. It is the person that you call when you are at your absolute worst, it is the person who saves you when you didn’t even notice that you needed saving, mostly it is the person who accepts you for who you are, and the person that you are becoming."
Tan Huey Li
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